Private Mentoring
I mentor purpose-driven, service-hearted and radically loving individuals aiming to live their way out of codependent self-erasure, develop possibilities for inner peace, inhabit their most naturally authentic self and draw intimately closer to self, other, spirit and service with a newly grounded personal stability.
My 1 on 1 mentoring has been named by clients as a “grounded and expansive space”, filled with warm levity and buoyant laughter, just as much as it is filled with bracing practicality, tender honesty and expansive, mindset-shattering contemplations.
Inside mentoring, I will invite your life to be your guide, giving you a well-deserved break from the self help knowledge gathering hamster-wheel long enough to notice what relational lessons and practices are already trying to get your attention in your real life.
This kind of support will guide you to…
Actually live the work of relational recalibration, undo old tangled knots of dependency that are still present, and be with what’s present as a portal to choice, autonomy, security and a renewed sense of self inside love, relationships & work.
You’ve found this space that instantly just gets you if…
It’s difficult to focus on yourself or your future visions because your attention feels constantly pulled to what other’s are or are not doing, and what that means you have to do to fill the gap. Truly, it feels like you are doing everything, for everybody, all the time.
You crave spaciousness, rest, a clearer distribution of what actually is yours to care for, and the time to pursue that brilliant orb of potential & pleasure you feel pulsating within you.
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At the first signs of someone withdrawing from relating with you or feeling big things in your presence, you leave your sense of your own experience in the dust to chase, fix, make better, improve or convince - only to feel later like you didn’t get what you needed.
You ache for attentiveness, tender reassurance, reciprocity from your loved ones, and the freedom to live a bigger, bolder life where you, and what brings you joy, are centered.
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Without intending to, you simply slide into liking what they like, adjusting to their sleeping/eating/life schedule, becoming the therapist/coach they “need”, striving to improve into the ideal partner they talk about…until any hint of you before becomes distant and (almost) silent. ie: being around anything long enough merges you to it.
You yearn for aliveness, personal expression, a rhythm of living & working that meets you, full acceptance, and a chance to shed the false layers hiding your vibrancy & mission.
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You may also be here because you want to {yet presently need support on how to}…
deeply identify your self-erasing tactics and unhook from what’s occurred before
earnestly comprehend the changes that are or will become actually available to you
find the exit ramp from your unhealthy patterns that have, so far, kept you connected
plant seeds of self trust, confidence and inner stability you can carry with you anywhere
bring more of yourself to the table in your relationships, your work, your daily life - you name it
release needing control, so you can feel safe, open and available for what’s next
use clear discernment for choices, decisions and words based in a growing ease and self belief
let your newly-forming abilities to love beyond codependency shift your relationship foundations
stop and sink into the enjoyment of being alive and loved, as you are today
allow yourself spacious time & room to experience the wisdom lessons in front of you (ie: learning how to let life show you how)
Private Client Story from A.P.
“I feel much more of me, like in my body and…whole, than I have in a long time.”
Sitting here today, with the safety I built for myself with Jenna and thinking back, I remember going into that first session incredibly full of shame and in the same pattern of "I need you to know my bad stuff upfront" and "are you gonna say I can't help you because you're too this or too that?” It was this constant thing, this constant shame, in the back of my head. The obsession over my past relationship felt so loud, and dating slowly, intentionally, even liking someone again, felt impossible to me.
As I let myself be known more through the ways I connected over time, relating in the space, choosing more relating in real life, becoming more vulnerable in the sessions, practicing rejecting the shame and instinct to cocoon myself on a regular basis and not face life, face choices or face others, it was so good. Really, all of it has contributed to this feeling of healing, and feeling like I am here. In fact, I feel pretty firmed here.
I feel like I don't feel so disconnected anymore from being a whole person that is just waiting for life to happen.
I am more in my life. I'm living more. I'm having better days. I’m enjoying being where I am, in the space I'm in. It feels so hopeful. So full of opportunity. I still have doubts but I definitely move more freely and take on opportunities more freely. Now I feel surrounded by community. I've experienced a lot more openness to receiving and giving love and I think, now with dating, it's like another opportunity to wade into that romantically. Even the fact that I am choosing to date again is a big indication of the inner change in me.
And though it took time, I'm now able to look back after 6 months and feel like I am finally forgiving myself for what I was like in my past relationship.
I look back, and I am proud of myself for making a choice at all. In a lot of ways, making a choice no longer feels angsty, spiraling, avoidant. In this process, somewhere along the way, I began to realize no decision is "bad" and when I actually did it, it felt easier and smoother than I thought. It didn't have to feel so hard.
I learned I didn't have to make it feel so hard on myself.
Feeling this speaks to your experience & desires?
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Relationalship-Pathway mentoring
Best for those looking for insightful guidance and sense of self development as they exit codependent tactics and self erasure inside their life, relationships, home & lifestyle.
These sessions are relational/education based and work to expand your codependent mindset, center your relational inner state and activate your experiential practices - shifting the way you think and perceive relating, especially to yourself. I draw on a scaffolded learning model that eases you into new learning and skill through self inquiry, life and self observation, contemplation, exploration, practice and reflection. Sometimes, I also draw from my experience with coaching, tarot, the recovery tradition and spiritual principles of surrender, belonging and acceptance.
This may be your pathway if you:
Want to bring more intentionality to the way you navigate your relationships
Wish to move through relationships with a stronger, steadier sense of self
Desire to shift out of people-pleasing, over-caretaking, chameleon-ing and perfectionism
Want to begin listening deeper and speaking from your inner truth
Currently Feel unheard and unseen with the folks closest to you
Are struggling through relational transition and need a resource as everything changes
Are reforming your sense of community after a hard stop swing into hyper-independency (in other words: personal safety)
Think your people are great but have yet to open and allow real intimacy pour forth
Wonder how good things could get if you got out of your codependent mind, surrendered control and let it be easier
This is what clients who’ve worked with me long term have to say:
“This kind of growth hits different. It's real and blinding and truly life altering.”
“The intensity of what I was experiencing before has dropped dramatically.”
“I am experiencing an opening, a peek into greater possibilities and a relaxing into presence.”
“This was exactly what I needed.”
“I am now speaking my needs from a place of authenticity!”
What you receive:
1 x 90 minute discovery & intention call
2 x 75 minute calls a month
Access to voice memo messaging between sessions
Recorded calls and ongoing shared session notes document
My further resources and recommended resources, as needed
Investment: $150/session or $300/month (usd)
6 or 9 month longevity lengths available (with opportunity to renew)
Soloprenuership-Pathway mentoring
Best for those looking to lovingly detach from codependency, enmeshment and self erasure in their purposeful service work or business and set up systems that help you relate and express honestly to your audience, community and clients - without you (and you wellbeing, needs and life) as the sacrificial cost.
These sessions are relational and business support based. They work to move you out of your codependent tendencies as they relate to your business, entrepreneurial pursuits or purpose work - and help you re-center your needs, rhythm, truth and values in your biz AND into the process of building systems, showing up on social media, creating offers, managing your responsibilities and relating to your people!
Secret: This is my favorite way to support folks!
Why get this kind of support from me, a codependency mentor?
I’ve worked as a solopreneur in 4 different sectors, where I was able to grow thriving and supportive online audiences and income (I got that lived experience)
I’ve worked as a virtual assistant, social media content creator, community manager, and systems consultant for 5+ years, supporting coaches and creatives. Plus, I have an education/curriculum background and degree that let me expertly assist folks as they map out courses, workshops, trainings and offers (I got that hands on skill)
I watched many of my VA clients shifted into mentee clients with a business lens, naturally, - as they saw the value of my codependency advocacy, my social media ideas and insights, how strongly I center their wellbeing and alignment in the process, and how grace-filled and bolstering to their self trust our work together became. This made the shift from VA to Mentor an easy no-brainer transition. Plus, I have a deep love for business, social media and business expression (I got that natural skill and enthusiasm for the work. Like - I LOVE this work)
The clients I have under this lens slowly create more abundance, more income, more space and time, more energy for other parts of life, more personal discernment in how they want their business to be expressed into the world - and slowly step into how they want to feel as they relate to and lead as a solopreneur (I got They got those desired resources coming in gently and securely)
This may be your pathway if you:
Wish to do your business your own way, the way that meets your needs and values
Want to more stability relate to your business and speak to your audience
Desire to move out of people-pleasing, over-caretaking, chameleon-ing and perfectionism in your business discernment, plus in your systems, marketing, social media, client support, you name it!
Long to begin listening and speaking from your truth and the deep intent of your business
Feel urgent and reactionary in your business or social media
Have been using your business as your sole source of self-esteem and importance
Need a pseudo-coworker to reflect, observe, assist and offer honest feedback
Secretly believe that if you just had a better business/social media, then your other internal and external issues *might hopefully* magically go away
Are struggling to set aside your business (on weekends or for a sabbatical) when you need space to feel, be with, handle life transitions or simply enjoy all the other areas of life
Are needing to reform what your natural pace and work rhythm is
Long to be heard, expressed and of service, and want to do your best to speak more clearly about what it is you actually do and what you can actually offer
Are ready to become available to how money, resources and opportunity come to you when you aren’t forcing solutions, overthinking and questioning everything (ie: starting from scratch) every few weeks or months
This is what clients who’ve worked with me long term have to say:
“This has peeled away my sense of urgency with my business.”
“I now have a really healthy outlook of myself around my work.”
“I was letting this work define me. Now I focus on what feeds me, nourishes me.”
“I’m now letting things unfold instead of making something happen. And I got 2 client. 2 clients!”
“I took the pressure of my business and got into my life.”
What you receive:
1 x 90 minute discovery & intention call
Weekly 45 minute calls, pre-agreed upon weekday and time
Options to use our time for mentoring, mapping, content creation or co-working
Audio recordings of our session and ongoing shared session notes document
My further resources and recommended resources, as needed
Investment: $95/session weekly or $380/month (usd)
6 to 9 month longevity lengths available (with opportunity to renew)
Options to adjust sessions for breaks and holidays (both mentor’s & mentee’s)
Meet your mentor
My mentoring stance is one of refocused attention, expansive contemplation, relational compassion, and grounded, bespoke practice building.
In my work as a mentor, I bring forward my training in education, facilitation, experiential learning techniques, contemplative and reflective space holding, the skills I developed as a community manager and associate life coach, plus the lived experience of working with the recovery tradition, a spiritual mentor and my ongoing untangling of codependency in my own life, in each new season.
My clients move through the levity and gravity of their experiences and learn to be attentive to their own experience again - without having to disregard others in the process. I am known in my client circles for my “fuck you - I need to hear that - thank you” moments where I speak clear reality with grace and warmth. I believe we need no be fearful of what’s real, what’s honest, what lives in us.
In this way, I help you move out of the trudge of the codependent cycle, however and where ever it is currently showing up for you, and come back into vibrant partnership with your inner source, discerning self trust, and stable self regard as you relate to others, work and living.